|
|
Post by Raineth on Aug 10, 2005 20:58:53 GMT 11
Wow those people sound crazy. I sympathise with all of you who have been acosted by a teacher. They sound like they have serious issues.
|
|
|
|
Post by Lauren on Aug 15, 2005 20:09:41 GMT 11
Just back onto the age thing, did anyone see on the news the other night that there was a 48yr old man and his 99yr old wife? So Ashta, youre fine!! One of my friends' parents are 20yrs apart. It's different if the girls like, 15-17 coz theyre young and naive and will do stupid things. But most girls do mature at about 18 and wont do anything they dont feel comfortable with. It's just stupid if a 14-17yr old girl goes out with a 20-25yr old guy just for the hell of it. Its really hard for me, because my older brothers are 23/25 and, well, not so much the older one, Paul, but Toby's likely to pick up just any old girl and while I know he wouldnt hurt her or anything, I just think he does it for the heck of it. He does it also, because I think he knows his age women would just laugh at him. He doesnt do it so much anymore, he's a little more focused on work and life, but there was a couple of years where every week he'd come home with a different chick. Paul on the other hand has a stable relationship with a lovely girl called Rachel, who I thinks about 20. My oldest brother, Andrew (25 going on 26 in october) is way more focused on ensuring financial safety because hes got a mechanical engineering scholarship in Brisbane and thats what hes always wanted to do - hes REALLY smart!! My oldest sister, Ali (27) is happily married and 6months pregnant.
LOL, I just ranted and raved forever didn't I??!! Sorry bout that....But yes, Ashta, I think the age difference is completely....up to you and the guy. If youre both OK with it, then so should everyone else.
|
|
|
|
Post by Raineth on Aug 15, 2005 20:29:15 GMT 11
No you didn't rant forever, I found what you said very interesting, and I certainly agree with you on the age topic. So you are the youngest is that right?
|
|
|
|
Post by Lauren on Aug 15, 2005 20:38:48 GMT 11
Ha, not really. Theres Stuart (10), Me (14), Kerryn (cow[16]), Toby (23), Paul (25), Andrew (25 nearly 26) and Ali (27). Mum and Dad have both been married before, Mum had Paul and Toby, Dad had Andrew and Ali, and they both had us. Our extended families really big.
|
|
|
|
Post by Raineth on Aug 15, 2005 21:20:15 GMT 11
Its nice to have a big family. Especially when there are so many older than you. Although you don't like one of your sisters now maybe you will get along later.
|
|
|
|
Post by shadowoutcast on Aug 16, 2005 11:58:49 GMT 11
well I don't need to have an extened family to have a large one. My dad's side of the family is huge, and when were all together you use to still meet someone new. The reason for that is my Nana (now passed away due to cancer) and Pop had 10 kids most of which are married and have kids and out of the ones that have married only one has ever devorced (he's a nice guy just missing a few marbles). As far as I know there 2 or 3 of my cousins(sp) married and one lives in the UK the rest live on the east coast. Mainly in Vic but also in NSW and Qld.
|
|
|
|
Post by Talmina on Aug 16, 2005 14:28:19 GMT 11
lauren, you will probably find that in a few years you and your sister will get along fine, my brothers used to fight heaps until they younger one left school and started working, then they were like best mates, they had all the same friends and went to parties together and stuff like that, but at your ages you will tend to argue a lot.
|
|
|
|
Post by Ashta on Aug 22, 2005 13:56:10 GMT 11
Just back onto the age thing, did anyone see on the news the other night that there was a 48yr old man and his 99yr old wife? So Ashta, youre fine!! ... LOL, I just ranted and raved forever didn't I??!! Sorry bout that....But yes, Ashta, I think the age difference is completely....up to you and the guy. If youre both OK with it, then so should everyone else. Hmm... well we haven't actually DISCUSSED the difference, but it doesn't seem to matter when it's just US. Social situations get a bit weird... like at my 19th I got a little shirty because I felt like he was avoiding me... but, I think he was just giving me time to be with my friends, and plus, some of his current students were there too... He gave me the opportunity to tell him what was wrong the next morning... but I didn't say anything and he told me that I'd had my chance!! Evil! ;D But like my two good friends were reassuring me, it will take a while for everyone else to get used to the idea that we're seeing each other. The hardest part is not being able to tell my family. I finally get what I want and I'm so happy yet I can't tell them... it sucks. Anyway, now I'm ranting  Ashta |
|
|
|
Post by Raineth on Aug 22, 2005 14:16:13 GMT 11
Love will find a way Ashta. I think If you can get your parents to listen to you before they panic (if they are going to panic -they might be fine with it!) and you can tell them how you feel, and reassure them, they will probably take it in their stride. But I don't know your parents....
I hope it all turns out well.
[shadow=red,left,300]by the way HAPPY BIRTHDAY ![/shadow]
Hope you are having a lovely day!
|
|
|
|
Post by Ashta on Aug 22, 2005 14:34:12 GMT 11
I'm not too worried about my father... that won't be hard. I really want to tell my mother but she will tell my step father (which may be bad) and my grandmother is really quite narrow minded.
but they will find out sooner or later... apparently I walk around with a foolish grin ;D
and thanks for the bday wishes!
|
|
|
|
Post by Raineth on Aug 22, 2005 15:12:20 GMT 11
Maybe you could ask her to put a good spin on it when she tells your step Dad? I find it interesting that your Dad will be the most fine with it out of everyone. Its usually the dads who are the most unreasonable about those sorts of things.
|
|
|
|
Post by Talmina on Aug 22, 2005 16:16:15 GMT 11
yeah telling family can be really hard, but all that matters is that youre happy hun. if your grandmother really freaks, invite her over for dinner or something so she can see how happy the two of you are and stuff. and dont worry about your step-dad, if your mum and dad dont have a huge problem it shouldnt be too much of a problem.
i would say that at your 19th he was just letting you have time with your friends, and he may not have felt comfortable with showing affection to you in front of his students, especially since it was all that long ago that you were one of them.
|
|
