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Post by Ashta on Jul 28, 2005 16:52:33 GMT 11
Ok, I'm not sure if anyone remembers me ranting about my crush a while back (That being my ex-drama teacher etc)....
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Well, after a wild saturday night, with bits I can't quite recall, I woke up the next morning and guess who with!??!?!?!?!?!
We've seen each other a few times since. He came around last night and we just talked. I'm seeing him again tonight something about a possible movie, or just chillin'.
By the way, I was wondering what everyone's opinion was on age differences? He's 13 years my senior, but that doesn't phase me, but I know that if my family found out they would KILL me!
But yeah, this little er... advancement in my life is the reason for my abscence this week!
Sorry, i'm still rather giddy, and have been for the past few days!!!!
Much luv,
Ashta
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Post by Dameon on Jul 28, 2005 17:02:10 GMT 11
I used to be anti-age difference, but I'm fine with it now. I think it depends on individual cases. But seeing as you're over 18, it's your decision.
I'm glad it's going somewhere though, I do remember you talking about him!
I can see why you're family might have a problemn with it, but ultimately, it's up to you really. As long as you're comfortable with it, and are aware of some of the problems that a large age-gap can cause in a relationship.
Let me know how it turns out!
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Post by Lix on Jul 28, 2005 20:44:57 GMT 11
i met a girl at uni who was dating her history teacher from high school that was soemthing like 20 years old than her. Both were female, ah love!  actually i feel the need to add go you! i had the hottest english teacher at school and yeah so hurrah for you getting the guy |
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Post by avra on Jul 28, 2005 23:52:36 GMT 11
Ooh, ahh! That's awesome, Ashta. Age? pah. Who cares? Hope it all works out for you |
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Post by Swallow on Jul 29, 2005 0:25:53 GMT 11
AH, the older you get, the less it matters. If you were 16 and he was 13 years older, i would be less happy, but 18...? *shrugs* go have fun! life shouldn't be about stupid little hang ups like age, if you can make it work, then why the hell not?
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Post by Raineth on Jul 29, 2005 15:30:22 GMT 11
Yay Ashta! I remember you talikng about him too. Hope it all works well! I don't think age is necessarily an issue. I think in your case specifically it isn't one.
But Yay for you, have lots of fun!
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Post by Ashta on Jul 29, 2005 15:37:49 GMT 11
Weh hey! Thanks for the support. I guess I was just worried that it wasn't normal... but I guess it is. Although i'm about ready to strangulate my housemate as she still goes to the school that he teaches at and that girl just cannot keep her mouth shut! It's not that there is anything technically wrong with it, however, some people are narrow-minded and I don't want his reputation or his job endangered just because of me. I told him that last night, I think he's just as worried as I am. The only thing that was a little bizzare was that he told me that his divorce papers came through on tuesday... it's so confusing, yet so great... I just don't want this feeling to stop!
I'm ranting, but my emotions are all jittery and swirly! I asked him what this thing we are doing is, he agrees with me that full-out 'couple' may not be apropriate yet, things are complex. However, he was surprised to find out that I liked him!!! He only found out on Saturday when my good friend told him! He never thought that anyone liked in that way!!!! I was so sure that he knew, I'm as subtle as an elephant on a tricycle!
I'm estatic, confused, bubbly, yet feeling guilty. I'm so wound up with emotions!
But anyway, we went and saw a play together last night. It was very very funny.... I didn't get home till 10am. ;D Life is good ::sigh::
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Post by Talmina on Jul 29, 2005 20:55:04 GMT 11
seriously hun, if youre happy it shouldnt matter. but i completely understand you worrying about endagnering his job, though technically they cant do anything unless something happened while you were at school. do you want us to send an army of frypans after your housemate??
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Post by Lix on Jul 30, 2005 12:42:22 GMT 11
Lol this stuff is awesome! it would make an interesting book actually my partner's best friend is 22 and he's dating a 17 year old and at first he was really hesitant about tinthinking everyone would think he was a cradle snatcher etc and i said to him, look u just do what you wanna do. People who love you will undertsnad, if they dont they dont love you enough.. or soemthig along those liones. it soudned really smart at the time but oh well. so hows it all going now? I havent had any goos gossip in a while, i work with emn |
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Post by DragonMornir on Jul 30, 2005 16:21:50 GMT 11
awww Ashta thats so cute!!! damn ur housemate tho... thats not cool.... but yay for u gal! *hugs*
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Post by Dark One on Aug 1, 2005 12:04:23 GMT 11
Good luck Ashta! As long as you're both happy with the age-gap, then everything will be fine
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Post by shadowoutcast on Aug 1, 2005 22:40:11 GMT 11
Good luck Ashta. Might add I have my own views on some topic but I wont go into details on my beliefs people sometime get really confused and can't hold up an argument... anywho your life you consern I have no reason for not trying to stop you.
(if anyone dosen't know my beliefs I have voiced now and then I'll happily share)
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Post by Ceirwan on Aug 2, 2005 11:07:22 GMT 11
My aunt was 19 when she started dating this divorcee who was 36 and they married two years later and are still together more than 20 years later. So that's proof that age difference doesn't really matter... as long as the two people are on the same level.
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Post by Dameon on Aug 2, 2005 11:15:52 GMT 11
Besides, women mature faster than men anyway, I understand.
*examines 19 year old best friend and her 23 year old boyfriend*
Yep... Girls mature faster!
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Post by Ashta on Aug 2, 2005 16:22:41 GMT 11
Weh hey! Thanks for the support guys!
Oh, and SO, I would love to hear your opinions. I'm not going to chase after you with an acme mallet for having your own opinions! ;D
Lol, and it was so cute, he came round after work yesterday and we just cuddled up on my bed and chatted for hours!!! ;D . He's awfully busy for the next couple of weeks though (which may be a good thing because I have esssays to write!), but damn, I miss him when he's not around.
I woke up the other night and reached out expecting him to be there.... and when he wasnt' i felt so lud darn stupid! It was kinda weird... lol... I was single for so long that I forgot that I miss cuddling up to someone at night (and he's extremely cuddly!!!!!)
Okay, now I'm just gushing.
-Ashta
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Post by Talmina on Aug 2, 2005 16:33:39 GMT 11
yeah girls do mature faster.
btw kayt, love the sig, but shouldnt andy have hair??
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Post by Dameon on Aug 2, 2005 16:38:19 GMT 11
Dude. Stick figures don't have hair. Duh!
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Post by Ashta on Aug 2, 2005 16:45:41 GMT 11
Dude. Stick figures don't have hair. Duh! pml |
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Post by Emerald on Aug 2, 2005 17:04:25 GMT 11
yeah, and if he had hair, then we would also have to insist on some rippling muscles and it would just get too complicated...  Anyway.. Yayness for you Ashta! you sound really happy! I wish i could find a nice guy like that... |
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Post by shadowoutcast on Aug 2, 2005 18:24:07 GMT 11
well my views on many topic are from a biblical bases (the is the Christian Bible) and of may facts I have come across some of them get fairly toasty as I stand by them like a rock.
For now I'll just 'hint hint', 'nudge nudge' Wedding bell my friend, wedding bell <- one of my big ones
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Post by Lix on Aug 2, 2005 18:32:51 GMT 11
Im engaged so im allowed to have "relations" with my fiancee. the catholic church says so but like i wouldnt anyway |
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Post by Talmina on Aug 2, 2005 19:14:10 GMT 11
stick figures CAN have hair, my stick figures have had hair since i was about 4, and he would look kinda sexy with hair, he could also be stickdeath.com's most eligible bachelor though....
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Post by shadowoutcast on Aug 2, 2005 19:23:15 GMT 11
Im engaged so im allowed to have "relations" with my fiancee. the catholic church says so but like i wouldnt anyway um... I believe in after the event it just me (and some passage but yeah) and if your refering to a film that state that then it not what a real priest would say but meh it up to up... I just think of it as a wonderful gift from God that is some much more then physical that we have taken on a 'joy ride' and srewed it all up. |
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Post by Ashta on Aug 3, 2005 9:51:00 GMT 11
It's really good that you stick by your beliefs like that SO, I really respect that, and it's a virtue that seems to be diminishing these days.
By my religion, pre-marital sex isn't an issue. In fact sex is embraced completely and utterly and condoned as natural.
And just on the topic apparently I ooze sexuality (friends + couple of bottles of wine ;D).
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The only time I'd find an older guy a bit off-putting is if he was old enough to be my Dad. That would be too .... 
SNOOPY!!!!
