Dating guys off the net?

[Nella]

What do you think bout dating guys of the net? Post ur opinions

[Kaylan-R]

I don't know,I never have.
Though I've heard people end up getting married with people they've dated off the net.
I'd never do it,unless someone I knew was the person on the net.

[Talmina]

my brother met his fiancee of the net, though they met in rl before they started dating. it depends on how much you can trust the other person and stuff, cos ive had friends get kinda screwed around by people theyve dated online, it takes a lot more trust for it to work.

[avra]

I met my ex on the net. I mean, we became good friends in "real life" and it was like 2 years before we actually went out. He actually went out with a couple of friends of mine too first. Aaanyway. We were together for 6 years. He went to the same school as my brother, so it wasn't totally random.

I wouldn't not do it again if I happened to become friends with someone through meeting on the net first, but it's not like Ober.net attracts a great number of guys my age who live in Melbourne in the first place! I wouldn't do that whole majorly long distance relationship with someone in another country that you've never met thing tho.

[Dark One]

but does it really work though?

Sure, there have been people who've got married after meeting on the net, but are they still together?

I suppose it takes some of the fear out of meeting people, but its really better to get to know someone face-to-face. That way you can tell what they're really like, instead of what they tell you in type...

[avra]

When you consider how high separation and divorce rates have supposedly come, I don't reckon that that marrying someone who you've dated off the net would make much of a difference to yer chances

[Nella]

Yeh, well this guy i have been talking to is totally random. Though he only lives a couple of km away i'm scared of meeting him. I don't really know him until i have seen him face to face, but i don't want to meet him.

[Madame Kat]

I don't know ... I'm a bit scared to be dating guys from the net... You never know what or who they could be.

Anyway, most of the guys from chat rooms are sad little freaks that need to get a life. (I don't mean to offend the guys that aren't)
...But on message boards I feel I can trust people more.

[Never Undressing Sneer]

i dont really meet that many guys on the net in the first place, and even when i do their hardly ever my age... so...

[Kaylan-R]

i don't know many guys on the net,so who could i date?

[Swallow]

I don't know.... it is a bit fishy. There was this one guy for a time i talked to HEAPS, and seriously, if he lived in Australia, i would have looked him up.... But he lives in America, so, i guess i'll never know about that. I've been talking to him for about 3 years now.... there was one stage where i felt he was the only meaningful relationship i had... but now's a different matter, i think i woke up and realised that he lives in Texas, and is probably twice my age and has some perverse.... ideas. I mean, we did meet over Star Trek... So i can understand how people could be drawn to it, but i don't think it's the smartest idea on the planet. When it comes down to it, who really knows who you're talking to?




cept for you guys tho but i don't want to date any of you.... sorry, but i just dont ;D

[Madame Kat]

Anyway, when I want to chat to people on MSN or Yahoo, most of them are guys who want 'to be your boyfriend' I mean, can't we just chat and be friends?

[Talmina]

yeah ive got a guy in wa whos like that. he knows im taken but i woke up this morning and had a goodmorning message on my phone. the only other guy whos done that was my ex who had an addiction to sms

[Nella]

Yeh i know all of the boys on msn are just really weird. First they ask ur asl and then they ask if u can suck their c0ck i mean come on get a life.

[Min]

...all I'm going to say is don't trust anything they say on the net to you. You can get into BIG trouble. If they are really interested in you, they'll meet you face to face.
If they can't do that - there's no harm in just being friends with them
But I guess it's one of those things you'd have to gauge yourselves...
Make sure you exchange photos. If you do meet, meet in a busy area. And if you don't want to meet - just don't

[HeartoftheDarkness]

I met some guy over a message board, and he lived in Canada. He seemed really nice and stuff, and we talked for like a year or so, but he turned out to be the biggest freak
Im never, ever doing that again

[Never Undressing Sneer]

i met a guy from Pennsylvania and he was completely obsessed with S.e.x so i kinda stopped talking to him...

[Dark One]

min said:

...all I'm going to say is don't trust anything they say on the net to you. You can get into BIG trouble. If they are really interested in you, they'll meet you face to face.
If they can't do that - there's no harm in just being friends with them
But I guess it's one of those things you'd have to gauge yourselves...
Make sure you exchange photos. If you do meet, meet in a busy area. And if you don't want to meet - just don't

I'd even be wary of doing that!

Think about it. How do you know the photo that the person has given you is actually what they look like? There are a lot of people out there who can be quite nasty, and prey on the innocence of the young.

Marija mentioned to me a while ago that she had some initial worries about a 30 year-old bloke on the forum, but is happy about it now. She had a sensible attitude. All i'm saying is that there are guys out there who aren't as nice as me.

Just be careful people!

[Elspethseeker]

it can be risky but i have no experiance in dating but a couple of my friends have tried and gotten screwed over. I agree it takes a lot of trust

[~Dani~]

Just be wary I think!! Get to know them before you meet them.

[Lix]

interesting question. i have some really good friends from this site but i dont know if id go for a guy from the net

[Marija]

I did?? Oh well... I think I am more scary than you anyone DarkOne =P

Net guys... well, my last bf was a net guy, so yeah. Although despite that I would make sure you get to know them really well before you meet them. Just sus them out... does what they say sound realistic?? Lol! Google them? (Yes, I'm a stalker in training) =P

Although if you are scared to meet them then trust your instincts I say!

Edit: I would just like to add, my ex is a very cool guy so yeah... some net boys can be decent!

[Talmina]

this is gonna sound really wierd to you guys. well marija and duck know but yeah. i met this guy on the net a few weeks ago and we were really getting along well so he gave me his mobile number last week and we have been messaging each other and calling each other since. it sorta came out the other night that while we both like each other we couldnt do an online/long distance thing, so theres kinda a bit of talk about him moving down here. there are other things he wants from moving down here so its not just me and yeah but its still wierd. so now ive basically got this guy moving from the other side of the country to be with me. well in a few months time anyway. he has said that if i find someone else in the meantime he wont mind or anything. we are both being really realistic about things and stuff but its still crazy. though the craziest part is that my mum didnt freak when i told her where all the messages and calls were coming from

[avra]

That's cool, talmina, however it works out, it's nice that this guy will already have a friend when he moves As you said, it's not like he's moving just for you - it's just an added perk!

Oh yeah, and long-distance things suck. Well, not always. I reckon they either make you or break you - just I was unlucky enough to get broked.

[Elspethseeker]

Wow talmina that is really lucky i say go you then since it is working.