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Post by Monster on Oct 18, 2004 21:23:10 GMT 11
my uncle died
but i didn't know him
now i don't know how to act around my family
they are grieving and i'm not
its strange
i don't know how to behave
i don't know what to do or say
i tend to make other peoples problems my own
now i have to go to college and keep an eye on my family and keep them from being over come by depression
its very confusing
i have to go to a removal soon
any help would be good be great
Omega
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Post by Raineth on Oct 18, 2004 21:39:20 GMT 11
Gosh, it seems to me that you are bearing alot of weight on those shoulders Omega.
I don't really know if I have any appropriate advice but I'll give it a go.
Since you don't know him maybe you could ask your parents to tell you about him. Maybe this will upset them but maybe as you get talking they'll remember the fun times he had and other positive things that help them to think that even though he died young (did he? I don't know) he still had a great life.
I don't know if that's good or not, but hopefully you'll find something to help.
raineth
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Post by Monster on Oct 18, 2004 21:48:20 GMT 11
he was 50-60 years old had a wife and a daughter who is about 25
i don't want to ask them about him as his death was avoidable
he died after an operation
he went home even though he should have stayed in hospital
he refused to be fussed over and didn't rest enough
he died of a heart attack
i don't want them to over think the possibilities
Omega
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Post by Raineth on Oct 18, 2004 22:00:15 GMT 11
Oh well I didn't mean ask them about his death though. But I could see how that might happen anyway.
I suppose just try to be compassionate and help with stuff that they might be too distracted to do in their state of grief until you leave for college. Then maybe a couple of well timed phone calls once you're there just to check on how everyones coping.
Raineth
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Post by Monster on Oct 18, 2004 23:22:46 GMT 11
thanks i'll give it a try
Omega
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Post by Miska on Oct 19, 2004 17:33:20 GMT 11
jsut be the extra helping hand...so doin all the little things, so they dont have to really think, but jsut do wat they want. its hard to explain. raineths advice was good!  but kinda be like an invisible helper...soing all the things that wouldm\normally jsut happen, butprob wont (like dinner, washing, cleanin, etc...) i no u prob do anywya but do it with out asking any questions or thinking...jsut taking chorse off of them is good...amkes it easier for them,,,*sigh* u poor thing tho! *huggles*
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Post by Monster on Oct 19, 2004 18:21:38 GMT 11
thanks the removal was yesterday
funeral today
i'm going to try and keep an eye on things as long as i can
Omega
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SNOOPY!!!!
